So, you have had a breakup and have even moved beyond the hurt. Now,
his/her name does not bring tears to your eyes. In the post breakup
period, you must think about dealing with your ex. Because, if you study
in the same college or work in the same office or stay in the same
locality, you are bound to come across each other one day. Now comes the
question that whether one can be friends with an ex or not. Most of the
people think that there is no harm in being friends with your ex.
But in our opinion, the idea of being friends with your ex is a very
bad one. This is so because, friends can be lovers, but lovers can never
be friends. It is nearly impossible to love somebody and then go back to
maintaining a platonic relationship. Also, as long as you remain
friends, there is always a hope that the relationship may again go back
to what it was once. Unnecessary expectations creep up and then, the
whole thing becomes too messy. And, your chances of starting the whole
affair all over again become too high.
So, it is better to avoid this whole idea of maintaining a friendship
level with your ex. However, you need not be outrightly rude to your ex
or avoid him/her. Greet him/her whenever you two happen to pass by,
answer back if he/she comes to talk to you and so on. But, do not go
beyond that. Don't start going out again or talking on the phone.
Remember that you have ended that relationship and it is better to move
on with life. You have every possibility of finding someone more loving
and caring than he/she was!
